Sarging

When I go out sarging in the bars and clubs I always pay close attention to the dress code, behaviour and body language of the guys and girls around me. Try to keep your posture upright but relaxed with no sudden movements. Also, don’t scan the room, constantly leering at all the nice legs, tits and ass like the other guys do. In fact make sure you notice everything those lonely losers do (they’re easy to spot) and make sure you don’t do any of it! This includes: pointing at women you think are hot, constantly following the woman you fancy around, grabbing women on the dance floor and trying to deal with your anxiety by drinking too much alcohol. It’s also best to avoid hanging around the perimeter of the dance floor on “Death Row” all night, as you watch the pretty girls tease you with their sexy dance moves.

A quick note on alcohol: Many of the top pickup artist gurus recommend that you stay away from alcohol altogether. My opinion on this is that alcohol is a very useful social lubricant if you use it properly and don’t abuse it. This used to be a big sticking point for me because I’d drink until I got to the point where I’d lost my inhibitions and then start to go into sarging mode. This was my biggest mistake because when you drink a lot, and drink quickly, your perception of the environment is very different from somebody who is stone cold sober or has had just a few drinks. Consequently your calibration will be way off and I’ve been in some nasty brawls as a result. I find that if you slow the rate at which you drink right down, and cap the total number of bottles to whatever your limit is, it’s possible to strike a balance between a relaxed happy state and still being able to do your stuff. On top of that you’ll be in a far better position to diffuse any trouble should it arise.

Another big thing in the pickup and dating community is the 3 second rule. This basically states that whenever you see a woman that you would like to sarge, you have 3 seconds to start to move towards her and begin the interaction. This throwing yourself in at the deep end tactic is actually a very useful piece of wisdom that I still use today. If you can’t remember your opener or think of anything to say, a “hi” or any comment on what she’s wearing will do. If you’ve practised your material then it will start to come back to you once you relax into the conversation.

Becoming successful with women really isn’t too difficult when you focus on it properly with the right attitude. All you have to do is take the time to talk to them and understand them on a deeper level. Once you find a way to truly connect with women in this way you no longer need to rely on lines and routines – your conversation will just flow naturally. In fact, the one true secret to guarantee a successful interaction with almost any woman is to always remember that your goal is to stimulate her EMOTIONS. Now I’ve read a lot of information on this subject from all sorts of sources out there, including David Deangelo, The Mystery Method, Neil Strauss (Style) and I’ve found some of their material to be very useful, but the problem was that I always had to plough through piles of fluff and filler to get to it. But then I discovered this book. This is what really helped me propel my game to the next level.

What makes it so special? Well, it’s simple – it was written by a WOMAN.

I highly recommend you give it a try as it will teach you all about female psychology – the sort of stuff that can give you a HUGE advantage when you’re in a conversation and not sure what to do next.

OK, some simple tips to gain some easy points with the girls before hitting the town. These are generally known as set and forget and involve getting your fashion and grooming in order, and also practising some routines and openers.

Fashion

As far as fashion is concerned you need to look in the latest catalogues and try to get a feel for the current trend. Notice the cut of the clothes, the colours and the way that they are worn. Also pay attention to what the other guys who have attractive girlfriends are wearing. Now you need to go shopping and try to find a look that suits your overall build. For example, if you’re a short arse like me, don’t buy baggy clothes that will make you look even shorter. The best advice if you are really clueless is to take your sister or any other fashion conscious chick along with you and let her pick your new threads for you. If you can’t find anyone then go to a trendy fashion shop and ask one of the cute shop assistants to help you out. You may not like the result yourself, but believe me it’s best to trust their judgement. There have been several occasions when my lil sis has bought me a shirt or cologne and I thought that it looked too gay or just wasn’t me, but when I actually tested them out I’d get positive comments from the girl I was talking to.

One more thing, unless you live in LA, forget about peacocking. There is no way you’re gonna get laid in a typical town or city if you walk around dressed like some crackpot seven foot tall clown! OK, it works for Mystery and I have the utmost respect for him, but you must understand that this is a big part of who he is (a natural performer). Most guys who struggle with women and dating do so because they are shy, quiet and naturally introverted in nature. Dressing up in rubber and platform shoes will simply get you laughed out of the club! Not exactly what you need when you are trying to build up your confidence levels.

Grooming

If you’ve got a decent head of hair then you need to get a nice fresh, recent haircut. Again, just go into a unisex salon and ask a nice young stylist do her stuff. If you’re thinning out a bit, then I’m sorry, but It’s time to buzz it off with some clippers and accept it. I’ve done this and found that women like to run their hands over my head as it gives a kind of velvety feeling. And for god’s sake NO COME-OVERS!!! Nothing screams “I’M GOING BALD AND I’M INSECURE ABOUT IT” more than a come-over.

Also, if you have a hairy neck, don’t just leave it and walk around looking like a retarded Neanderthal – shave it off! I’ve seen the reaction from groups of women when they see this sort of thing and I believe it’s spelled like: EWWWWW!!!! Next is nasal hair – make sure that this stays in your nose where it belongs – any that is protruding from your nostrils should be clipped or plucked. The same goes for ear hair and while you’re at it tidy up your bushy eyebrows with some scissors and tweezers.

Finally, there is body hair. Personally I have a fair amount of body hair, and although this does tend to go along with high testosterone levels, it’s not considered to be an attractive trait in a modern, well groomed, high value ladies’ man. So what I do is to clip it down with my clippers and shave the areas like my shoulders and upper arms. This looks fine if you have some tone to your skin, but if your hair is really thick and dark, then just reduce the thickness with clippers. It is possible these days to have body hair removed with a laser, but I’ve tried this and found it to be time consuming, expensive and very painful!

Pickup Lines and Routines

If you’re new to sarging and pickup, then I would recommend that you spend some time researching some openers, some comfort building routines and also a tactic for number closing. I’m not going to go into any specifics here because the internet is teaming with this sort of thing, and I think that it’s important to find some material that fits with your personality. As a general rule though, you want to be initially very playful and quite high energy on the opener, lower the tone a bit with comfort building and then just assume the sale when you go for her number. Don’t get lazy and go out thinking you can  read a couple of forum posts on the internet and just improvise – without proper structure and practise you’ll open and then your mind will go f**king  blank. You’ll stall out and be left standing there with your balls in your hands, desperately trying to think of something funny or interesting to say.

The important thing is that you practise you rap at least once a week and then spend an hour or so running through your repertoire just before going out. Do this as if you’re rehearsing for a play, as just reading through it won’t enable you to internalise the body language and voice tone that is such an important part of the whole game.

Fortunately for you the women you’re going to be interacting with aren’t too fussy about your looks. They will however sometimes comment on any area of your looks or personality in order to test you for signs of insecurity. Don’t get caught out here – you can easily get past this with a sharp, witty comeback to show that you are on top of your game. Be sure to have these ready for any of your shortcomings that she may use to try and make you lose your composure. Common things she may use include: weight, height, being bald, big nose, speech impediment, fashion sense (you should have this one covered already), she’s got a boyfriend etc.

All in all you’ll need about 20 – 30 minutes of material to open, connect and build comfort, trust and commonalities, and finally number close. Personally I don’t take women I’ve just met home for a one night stand anymore as I found it difficult to continue with any kind of relationship afterwards, although this is easier than you probably think – all you have to do is spot the signals.

Now, before we start I’d like to say that I am not somebody special in any way. I am not rich, I am not tall (actually I’m rather short for a guy at just 5 feet, 5 inches) and my looks can be described as  about average. In fact, if you are struggling with women right now the only thing that separates you from me at this moment is knowledge, and correct application of that knowledge (experience in other words). That’s it! I honestly believe that with the right tools, attitude and experience you could easily be enjoying the same level of success as I’ve come to enjoy as part of my everyday reality. What’s more, I believe that you could do it in much less time.

Also, like I said in my previous post, having this part of your life under control really feels awesome!  Just think of all the benefits:-

No more loneliness — You really can end up spending your free time with a girl you are genuinely attracted to. No more settling for any girl that you can get because you don’t think you can do any better. You can get whatever you want in life if you commit to improving yourself.

Respect from your buddies — At first my mates laughed at me and probably thought that I was full of Sh1t because I was spouting theory about sarging this and pickup that, but that was because I didn’t have any results at the time to back it up. But boy did their attitude change when I hit my breakthrough point and everything started taking off! These days I find myself being followed around by guys I don’t even know, trying and figure out what I’m doing.

Increase in confidence and self esteem — Confidence comes from entering into a situation and knowing that you can handle whatever happens. When you approach a group of women with several hundred approaches under your belt you tend to naturally radiate a sort of cool, calm energy – and they can literally smell it on you!!! I don’t know whether it’s the Bond-like swagger, the cheeky grin or the hook you throw for your opener, but all I know is that once you have enough experience, you enter a sort of flow state and almost never get blown out.

Security — Once you get good at pickup you no longer have any insecurity about losing your vivacious, pretty, outgoing girlfriend. Both you and her understand that you could easily go out at the weekend and get a couple more numbers if you wanted to. In fact, this tends to drastically increase your value in her eyes, which makes her want to stick around you more.

Before I discovered sarging my skills with the opposite sex left a lot to be desired. I had occasionally managed to pick up girls at the local night club, but this was probably down to pot luck as my knowledge of the venusian arts was almost nonexistent.

Like most of the guys I used to hang around with, I always had difficulty with meeting women and finding a way to progress the relationship along a sexual route. Sure – women wanted to spend time with me, said I was funny, even said what a great husband I’d make, but somehow I always seemed to end up in the good old friends zone. Every time I forced myself to declare my true feelings for a woman she would get all weirded out and run for the hills. At the same time I would see guys who were abusive assholes, and not exactly Brad Pitt in the looks department, manage to hook up with and date some of the most beautiful, intelligent women I had ever met (usually the same ones that rejected me after three months of taking them out and telling them how special they were!) I’m sure you’re with me here when I say THIS FRUSTRATED THE HELL OUT OF ME!!! I mean, what could be possibly be going on here?

Well, to sum it up with one word: EMOTIONS, but more on that later. Anyway, I decided that I was going to do absolutely whatever it would take to get this part of my life handled – no more hiding behind my problems, no more pretending that I was just going through a “dry spell”, no more punching the door when my “soul mate” that I had been chasing for weeks on end rejected me for some lowlife waster, no more telling myself that I’m a decent guy and I’ll definitely find a good woman one day. Nope, the time had come to take ACTION, it was time to EVOLVE, it was time to start SARGING.

So…. what did I do?

Well, just like any other computer nerd I hit the internet. I read and read and read, I listened to dozens of audio programs and I watched many videos. It wasn’t long before I found all the top gurus – there was David Deangelo, famed for his Cocky/Funny style; there was Mystery and The Mystery Method, which involved a step by step algorithm as he likes to put it; there was Ross Jeffries, who used Neuro Linguistic Programming like a sort of covert seductive hypnosis; and there were many more wannabe gurus hot on their heels.

My progress at first was slow, painful and at times darn right humiliating! I lost count of the number of times I got responses like F**K OFF!!!, why are you talking to me?, you’re boring me, I’ve got a boyfriend, you’re too short etc, etc. Even though this was difficult at first, it did serve to thicken my skin so to speak, and eventually I became desensitized to it.

At this point I’d moved beyond just trying to use “magic pickup lines” and started to and started to pay attention to other important key areas like fashion and grooming, and more importantly BODY LANGUAGE. Once I got these handled I started to make progress – women would actually be interested in what I had to say and I eventually got my first number close. This quickly snowballed into more numbers as my confidence began to grow (Neil Strauss, author of The Game says “Success Breeds Confidence”) and eventually, I got my first date after about 6 months of trial and error.

Having built upon that initial success, the position I’m in today is VERY different from when I started. Now, I’m not claiming that I can get any girl I desire, but….. I can confidently say that I can go out sarging on a Friday or Saturday night and get at least 1 solid phone number that will lead to a date (often referred to as a meet up or day 2 in the pickup community). Think about that for a moment – how would it feel to know that you can attract and date at least one new high quality woman every single week? Well I can tell you right now that nothing I know of can compare to how it feels to have this kind of power and I’m going to share with you some of the top sarging tips and tactics that helped me in the following posts.

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