OK, some simple tips to gain some easy points with the girls before hitting the town. These are generally known as set and forget and involve getting your fashion and grooming in order, and also practising some routines and openers.
Fashion
As far as fashion is concerned you need to look in the latest catalogues and try to get a feel for the current trend. Notice the cut of the clothes, the colours and the way that they are worn. Also pay attention to what the other guys who have attractive girlfriends are wearing. Now you need to go shopping and try to find a look that suits your overall build. For example, if you’re a short arse like me, don’t buy baggy clothes that will make you look even shorter. The best advice if you are really clueless is to take your sister or any other fashion conscious chick along with you and let her pick your new threads for you. If you can’t find anyone then go to a trendy fashion shop and ask one of the cute shop assistants to help you out. You may not like the result yourself, but believe me it’s best to trust their judgement. There have been several occasions when my lil sis has bought me a shirt or cologne and I thought that it looked too gay or just wasn’t me, but when I actually tested them out I’d get positive comments from the girl I was talking to.
One more thing, unless you live in LA, forget about peacocking. There is no way you’re gonna get laid in a typical town or city if you walk around dressed like some crackpot seven foot tall clown! OK, it works for Mystery and I have the utmost respect for him, but you must understand that this is a big part of who he is (a natural performer). Most guys who struggle with women and dating do so because they are shy, quiet and naturally introverted in nature. Dressing up in rubber and platform shoes will simply get you laughed out of the club! Not exactly what you need when you are trying to build up your confidence levels.
Grooming
If you’ve got a decent head of hair then you need to get a nice fresh, recent haircut. Again, just go into a unisex salon and ask a nice young stylist do her stuff. If you’re thinning out a bit, then I’m sorry, but It’s time to buzz it off with some clippers and accept it. I’ve done this and found that women like to run their hands over my head as it gives a kind of velvety feeling. And for god’s sake NO COME-OVERS!!! Nothing screams “I’M GOING BALD AND I’M INSECURE ABOUT IT” more than a come-over.
Also, if you have a hairy neck, don’t just leave it and walk around looking like a retarded Neanderthal – shave it off! I’ve seen the reaction from groups of women when they see this sort of thing and I believe it’s spelled like: EWWWWW!!!! Next is nasal hair – make sure that this stays in your nose where it belongs – any that is protruding from your nostrils should be clipped or plucked. The same goes for ear hair and while you’re at it tidy up your bushy eyebrows with some scissors and tweezers.
Finally, there is body hair. Personally I have a fair amount of body hair, and although this does tend to go along with high testosterone levels, it’s not considered to be an attractive trait in a modern, well groomed, high value ladies’ man. So what I do is to clip it down with my clippers and shave the areas like my shoulders and upper arms. This looks fine if you have some tone to your skin, but if your hair is really thick and dark, then just reduce the thickness with clippers. It is possible these days to have body hair removed with a laser, but I’ve tried this and found it to be time consuming, expensive and very painful!
Pickup Lines and Routines
If you’re new to sarging and pickup, then I would recommend that you spend some time researching some openers, some comfort building routines and also a tactic for number closing. I’m not going to go into any specifics here because the internet is teaming with this sort of thing, and I think that it’s important to find some material that fits with your personality. As a general rule though, you want to be initially very playful and quite high energy on the opener, lower the tone a bit with comfort building and then just assume the sale when you go for her number. Don’t get lazy and go out thinking you can read a couple of forum posts on the internet and just improvise – without proper structure and practise you’ll open and then your mind will go f**king blank. You’ll stall out and be left standing there with your balls in your hands, desperately trying to think of something funny or interesting to say.
The important thing is that you practise you rap at least once a week and then spend an hour or so running through your repertoire just before going out. Do this as if you’re rehearsing for a play, as just reading through it won’t enable you to internalise the body language and voice tone that is such an important part of the whole game.
Fortunately for you the women you’re going to be interacting with aren’t too fussy about your looks. They will however sometimes comment on any area of your looks or personality in order to test you for signs of insecurity. Don’t get caught out here – you can easily get past this with a sharp, witty comeback to show that you are on top of your game. Be sure to have these ready for any of your shortcomings that she may use to try and make you lose your composure. Common things she may use include: weight, height, being bald, big nose, speech impediment, fashion sense (you should have this one covered already), she’s got a boyfriend etc.
All in all you’ll need about 20 – 30 minutes of material to open, connect and build comfort, trust and commonalities, and finally number close. Personally I don’t take women I’ve just met home for a one night stand anymore as I found it difficult to continue with any kind of relationship afterwards, although this is easier than you probably think – all you have to do is spot the signals.
